So your day starts with decisions ...what are you going to wear today, what are you going to eat for breakfast,who you going to meet...whom you will avoid...then the day continues and then there are some more of those dreaded decisions to make and to take.
Of course Life throws many more situations where you have to make bigger and more complicated decisions than those mundane ones that I just mentioned above.As a child life is less complicated as such, since you dont have to really exercise too much of that "D" word...our parents do it for us or at best,we had limited choices and therefore were pretty clear that we wanted to eat that cookie ONLY or that wear those shoes ONLY!
The trouble starts when we start "Choosing" ,making a choice which ultimately translates to making a decision.
So if it starts with selecting a career based on what you really want to do vs.what your friends are going to do, or which kind of a person you would want to go out with and date.These are poignant and key decisions for most of us. There are times that many of us make the wrong choice and therefore take a wrong decision, which actually seems so only hindsight.Sometimes its possible to undo the damage,at times its not...like if you chose a partner who later turned into someone you'd never want to spend the rest of your life with, you could walk away,but the mental,emotional and spiritual damage done is at times irreversible.
Similarly you may hate the work you do (which of course is a result of the decision you made on what career you chose and what education you undertook).It's possible to change course of your career by deciding to start afresh into something you'd really like, but the time lost would never come back.
Decisions to marry,to have a child are other big and pretty much irreversible decisions.Whether you are forced into making these decisions or you had the good fortune to choose your decisions ,it changes your life forever.
Let's assume you had the freedom to choose and take your own decisions for every major milestone in your life, the obvious question is how does one take a correct decision? I dont have any "correct" or right answers either.I do know one thing that a decision taken in haste ,under pressure, without making "your happiness" a priority ,is usually going to make you regret the decision. Yes, there are times when one has to put other's happiness before their own (maybe family,colleagues, friends -anyone),but even in such a situation what matters is it's going to harm you in any way -physical,emotional or spiritual.
Also, we all know that our decisions lead to success or failure based on the action we take and how things pan out for us,post the decision taken. But however,if for some reason the decision leads to failure in any aspect of our life,it puts a fear in our minds ,dents our confidence and makes us risk-averse.Does that mean we stop taking decisions in life? Obviously not, because we still have to make those mundane daily decisions.So if those dont go away,dont stop staring at us in the face, why would it be any different for the bigger questions in life?
There is so much more to decision making in life that there are various books written around the world, lots of guruspeak is available on the topic. My only mantra ,which is still no fail-safe method, is that delay the decision, look for signs ( Yeah,as they say in those rom-com movies) and go by your gut. So while you may not trust your gut at the start,but the more you go by it, the more it pulls you through the rough patches.
PS:Going shopping in these days is so draining these days...forever deciding between which tops to buy-to go for sexy or comfort, which food items to buy-healthy or comfort, which shoes to buy- heels ,funky, practical ,open ,closed etc...etc...I can already see many of you nodding your heads in agreement!
Of course Life throws many more situations where you have to make bigger and more complicated decisions than those mundane ones that I just mentioned above.As a child life is less complicated as such, since you dont have to really exercise too much of that "D" word...our parents do it for us or at best,we had limited choices and therefore were pretty clear that we wanted to eat that cookie ONLY or that wear those shoes ONLY!
The trouble starts when we start "Choosing" ,making a choice which ultimately translates to making a decision.
So if it starts with selecting a career based on what you really want to do vs.what your friends are going to do, or which kind of a person you would want to go out with and date.These are poignant and key decisions for most of us. There are times that many of us make the wrong choice and therefore take a wrong decision, which actually seems so only hindsight.Sometimes its possible to undo the damage,at times its not...like if you chose a partner who later turned into someone you'd never want to spend the rest of your life with, you could walk away,but the mental,emotional and spiritual damage done is at times irreversible.
Similarly you may hate the work you do (which of course is a result of the decision you made on what career you chose and what education you undertook).It's possible to change course of your career by deciding to start afresh into something you'd really like, but the time lost would never come back.
Decisions to marry,to have a child are other big and pretty much irreversible decisions.Whether you are forced into making these decisions or you had the good fortune to choose your decisions ,it changes your life forever.
Let's assume you had the freedom to choose and take your own decisions for every major milestone in your life, the obvious question is how does one take a correct decision? I dont have any "correct" or right answers either.I do know one thing that a decision taken in haste ,under pressure, without making "your happiness" a priority ,is usually going to make you regret the decision. Yes, there are times when one has to put other's happiness before their own (maybe family,colleagues, friends -anyone),but even in such a situation what matters is it's going to harm you in any way -physical,emotional or spiritual.
Also, we all know that our decisions lead to success or failure based on the action we take and how things pan out for us,post the decision taken. But however,if for some reason the decision leads to failure in any aspect of our life,it puts a fear in our minds ,dents our confidence and makes us risk-averse.Does that mean we stop taking decisions in life? Obviously not, because we still have to make those mundane daily decisions.So if those dont go away,dont stop staring at us in the face, why would it be any different for the bigger questions in life?
There is so much more to decision making in life that there are various books written around the world, lots of guruspeak is available on the topic. My only mantra ,which is still no fail-safe method, is that delay the decision, look for signs ( Yeah,as they say in those rom-com movies) and go by your gut. So while you may not trust your gut at the start,but the more you go by it, the more it pulls you through the rough patches.
PS:Going shopping in these days is so draining these days...forever deciding between which tops to buy-to go for sexy or comfort, which food items to buy-healthy or comfort, which shoes to buy- heels ,funky, practical ,open ,closed etc...etc...I can already see many of you nodding your heads in agreement!
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