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Mother's Musings


So you're a mother now and your life is way different from what it used to be. More often than not you feel like you're all alone in it and no one understands ,how you deal with physical,emotional,professional and social life changes. Strangely, the more mothers ( new and old) I meet, the more the problems and challenges seem to be the same. While in India, we may have help like domestic servants, extended families but the feelings and anxities still are the same. No one wants to leave their babies in the care of a third person, but then again no one wants to give up all the hard work they put in before the baby arrived either.
Everyone agrees that 'having it all" may be a myth and yet we all seem to be chasing it at all times;more often at the risk of never enjoying any one thing in our life-be it the growing years of our child, achievements at work or weightloss ( yes that too!) or the loving spouses overtures.
There is no single key or single answer on overcoming these difficulties and challenges. The only thing I have learnt over the years is that Paitence is of utmost importance. While we are trying to do everything all at once. it's really just exhausting us and no one's really noticing the difference we make. So therefore I have realised, that taking one challenge at a time is better, by judging,which is more pressing for the moment to handle.
I may not be making complete sense,but in my following posts I hope to bring more clarity by dealing with examples from my life and also of those are around me.
Until then..happy mothering! :))

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