Would it not be nice for someone to take decisions for you when you have absolutely zero clue as to what should you be doing next,whether its the next career move or figuring the next meal. The meal analogy is no misnomer,mind you. The amount of energy that goes into deciding what needs to be cooked ( or even if it has be ordered from some random place),its almost exhausting,probably moreso than actually getting the food on the table. But anyways,thats a topic for another post.
Coming to some of the larger decisions,that can be draining on your system. And trust me,I have been there more number of times,than I would like to have gone there.Its the worst feeling some times,especially when you have to end something or get rid of someone/something from your life. Not that its the best feeling when you have to take on something new,start something totally random of that which you have no clue what so ever on. But then ending vs.starting there is obviously a difference.
Yes, but if someone just took these decisions for us,life would probably be simpler.Like as children,most decisions were taken by our parents for us. And then if you are child of the Gen-Y times,you have a mind of your own and are not used to be given decisions to follow. No matter,whether the ultimate choice that you make, is right or wrong ,it has to be a choice that you made and not something that was chosen for you.
Sometimes,I believe decision-making skills should be taught in school and not later in life when you have grown to be a some hotshot and by when you probably already took all the wrong decisions you could have.
Of course only a few get to make it to those high flying courses.Mind you,these are taught by some super-specialist and strategist who apparently has taken all the right decisions (atleast for the organisation where s/he works,if not in his personal life). At the end of the course also, do all ,who attended, gain some mastery over the whole decision making brouhaha? I have my doubts.
So what happens to the lesser mortals who grapple with equally daunting situations day in and day out. Where decisions and choices have to be made irrespective if it will eventually affect us or not. Well apart from going with the trial and error option, we play a game of "eene-mini-mynah-moh" with our choices.
I know at times, we are not even left with any choices as such and have to go with whatever is dished out. Like as children how our mom's gave us no option but to eat our greens if we wanted our dessert. Sadly in grown up life, sometimes we just " have" to eat our greens and still get no dessert.
So if it is so tough and exhausting, do any of us have a solution to it? Some go by simplifying their life by just having lesser food options,lesser friends, lesser clothes and shoes and even lesser career options. Some tough it out, trying to live through with all options. Some stay strong and live with your gut and follow it.
Some buckle under and take the easier option. Some are the ones who converted themselves from being the weaklings to the strong willed.
I still go with the option of simplifying the sundry times on your laundry list of life such as what food to cook and eat, what to wear to work and outside of work, which social events to attend and avoid, which friends to be touch with and which to remember only on birthdays and anniversaries ( Facebook will let you forget even if you want to,then again if you are social media reformist like me, there are chances you will miss that too),etc. There are so many options even for simple daily items like soaps, shampoos, lotions,creams ,toothpaste (for our parents it was only Toothpaste= Colgate and Soap= Lux) that a trip to the super market ( or hyper market) every month or fortnight is actually time consuming and exhausting. And the fact that there is a new super/hyper market opening up every other day,doesnt help matters at all.
I definitely dont have direct answers to this and I face the herculean task of selecting options everyday, but yes, I have tried after a lot of hard work (if you can call it that) to figure what I need to decide and what I neednt waste time on,with weighing alternates.
What matters eventually are the bigger choices of life that we make- to marry or not at all,whom to marry, whether to have kids or not, whether to continue the drudgery of working in a boring job or giving it all up to make that difference in the world. And again as I mentioned earlier, the high cost decision making tool and course will also not give you the correct choice to make. It will have to feel right at the moment. And there is every chance that, that feeling will change and you will in all probabilities regret the opportunity lost cause of the choice you made.
Its an endless and vicious cycle that doesnt seem to end for most of us.But yes, I do hope that who ever reads this will leave feeling less alone in their battle of the choices. :)
P.S: Pick 5 colors you like the most and build your wardrobe around these 5 colors. Dont bother with the coordination, they will fall in place. It will save you time while shopping, dressing up everyday and people will associate you with those colors in the long run.My favs are white,black,grey,red, blue.
Coming to some of the larger decisions,that can be draining on your system. And trust me,I have been there more number of times,than I would like to have gone there.Its the worst feeling some times,especially when you have to end something or get rid of someone/something from your life. Not that its the best feeling when you have to take on something new,start something totally random of that which you have no clue what so ever on. But then ending vs.starting there is obviously a difference.
Yes, but if someone just took these decisions for us,life would probably be simpler.Like as children,most decisions were taken by our parents for us. And then if you are child of the Gen-Y times,you have a mind of your own and are not used to be given decisions to follow. No matter,whether the ultimate choice that you make, is right or wrong ,it has to be a choice that you made and not something that was chosen for you.
Sometimes,I believe decision-making skills should be taught in school and not later in life when you have grown to be a some hotshot and by when you probably already took all the wrong decisions you could have.
Of course only a few get to make it to those high flying courses.Mind you,these are taught by some super-specialist and strategist who apparently has taken all the right decisions (atleast for the organisation where s/he works,if not in his personal life). At the end of the course also, do all ,who attended, gain some mastery over the whole decision making brouhaha? I have my doubts.
So what happens to the lesser mortals who grapple with equally daunting situations day in and day out. Where decisions and choices have to be made irrespective if it will eventually affect us or not. Well apart from going with the trial and error option, we play a game of "eene-mini-mynah-moh" with our choices.
I know at times, we are not even left with any choices as such and have to go with whatever is dished out. Like as children how our mom's gave us no option but to eat our greens if we wanted our dessert. Sadly in grown up life, sometimes we just " have" to eat our greens and still get no dessert.
So if it is so tough and exhausting, do any of us have a solution to it? Some go by simplifying their life by just having lesser food options,lesser friends, lesser clothes and shoes and even lesser career options. Some tough it out, trying to live through with all options. Some stay strong and live with your gut and follow it.
Some buckle under and take the easier option. Some are the ones who converted themselves from being the weaklings to the strong willed.
I still go with the option of simplifying the sundry times on your laundry list of life such as what food to cook and eat, what to wear to work and outside of work, which social events to attend and avoid, which friends to be touch with and which to remember only on birthdays and anniversaries ( Facebook will let you forget even if you want to,then again if you are social media reformist like me, there are chances you will miss that too),etc. There are so many options even for simple daily items like soaps, shampoos, lotions,creams ,toothpaste (for our parents it was only Toothpaste= Colgate and Soap= Lux) that a trip to the super market ( or hyper market) every month or fortnight is actually time consuming and exhausting. And the fact that there is a new super/hyper market opening up every other day,doesnt help matters at all.
I definitely dont have direct answers to this and I face the herculean task of selecting options everyday, but yes, I have tried after a lot of hard work (if you can call it that) to figure what I need to decide and what I neednt waste time on,with weighing alternates.
What matters eventually are the bigger choices of life that we make- to marry or not at all,whom to marry, whether to have kids or not, whether to continue the drudgery of working in a boring job or giving it all up to make that difference in the world. And again as I mentioned earlier, the high cost decision making tool and course will also not give you the correct choice to make. It will have to feel right at the moment. And there is every chance that, that feeling will change and you will in all probabilities regret the opportunity lost cause of the choice you made.
Its an endless and vicious cycle that doesnt seem to end for most of us.But yes, I do hope that who ever reads this will leave feeling less alone in their battle of the choices. :)
P.S: Pick 5 colors you like the most and build your wardrobe around these 5 colors. Dont bother with the coordination, they will fall in place. It will save you time while shopping, dressing up everyday and people will associate you with those colors in the long run.My favs are white,black,grey,red, blue.
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