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U think you are doing enough?

I can never be sure...I dont think I ever have been. And the doubt doesnt seem to stem from a lack of confidence or an extreme self doubt but a deep rooted fear,that always pops its ugly head up every time something is about to be accomplished.
How do you know you're doing enough for your family? Cause after all,its not like every nite at the dinner table, we sign praises for each other. Yes, there is an untold undercurrent of love and respect which is not necessarily expressed everyday...though I wonder why? I mean if we cant tell our own kith and kin about how much we appreciate what they do for us, how do we expect the outside world to come up and express that to us.
And honestly I dont think its a very tough thing either. But yes, the truth is something else....
Are we able to do enough for our children? That is something you only learn once they grow up and hopefully turn out to be fine humans and decent citizens of this world that isnt always kind.
Once we become parents, is only when we realise what our parents did for us.Some of us do more for our children than our parents could do for us, and vice versa. But in the end each parent does the best they can. (To borrow the thought from Meredith Grey for her obsessively alzheimerised surgeon mother). Again the niggling doubt always eats us.
Do we do enough to build our career?Do we commit enough to our jobs in order for us to reach the acme that we can and are capable to reach to? I dont have the correct answers for these, but if at the end of the day we feel satisfied and a sense of peace prevails ( not withstanding the stress and chaos of a high strung job as well as boss) and we have a sense of worth and purpose,it should be sufficient to make you feel like you did well.And yes, that you did enough.
There is so much more that one can get involved in,like Community service, engaging in a hobby, providing social service, being involved in a sporting activity.But we obviously never find the time to "Do-it All".It would be exhausting and leaving us wanting more,as we would never be able to concentrate and give the complete attention that it requires.
I keep asking myself time and again if I have done enough in the life that I have lived so far. Yes, more often than not I am left feeling dissatisfied. And then again there is little that I am able to do,to change the situation.
Is it about procrastination or the fear of failure or the fear of displeasing people in the circle of influence.A little bit of all. As said earlier, it is not about the lack of confidence, as I am quite sure that any task can be excelled at,if we put our mind to it.
This is a never ending loop of a discussion. I will probably post more once I have some more thoughts on this.
P.S: I make a list of priorities for the day.And yes, they change based on seasons, requirements etc. The list is quite miscellaneous consisting of work related stuff, home stuff, child-specific,  so on and so forth. I eliminate anything that doesnt need my 100 % attention out this and then concentrate on those that do.
Thats my tip of the day. Hope it helps.

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